March 27, 2006
“I’m a second-year male in the college, and my roommate and I have been best friends since O-week last year. But the other day, out of nowhere, he tried to kiss me. I was totally caught off guard, and I yelled at him, and stormed out. Now I’m really worried about him. I want to support him in whatever he’s going through,--whether he’s gay or not--and I want to let him know that I’m his best friend no matter what. But I also know that I have to set really clear boundaries in our friendship, and I’m not sure how to do that without making him feel bad. Can I talk to someone at SCRS about how to best handle my situation?”
WHAT SCRS CAN DO:
- Provide a space in which you can discuss your reactions to your roommate’s recent behavior toward you
- Figure out ways to clearly establish boundaries with your roommate
- Offer to meet with your roommate to help him with these issues, and provide him with information about support networks, if necessary
DISCLAIMER: None of the vignettes are based on actual University of Chicago students or
specific incidents. The vignettes suggest possible scenarios but do not
represent any particular University students. The SCRS maintains a strict
confidentiality policy that is outlined our Policies section.
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