December 26, 2005
I was at a party last weekend, and I had sex with a girl I barely know. We were both very drunk, but from what I remember, everything we did was consensual. She also remembers it as consensual. But now, all her friends are trying to convince her that what happened between us was rape. They say that even though she consented, she was very drunk, and therefore, I should have “known better” than to proceed with having sex. I’m really confused about all this. I admit that having sex while drunk is not a good idea, and I never planned for it to happen that way. But I thought that when two adults consent, they share an equal responsibility in what happens. I’m very upset about the whole thing, and I was wondering if it would be possible for both of us to talk to a counselor at SCRS about what happened?
WHAT SCRS CAN DO:
- Help you both examine your own reactions to what happened, independent of the opinions of your friends
- Help you to look at the role that alcohol has played in this situation, and determine whether you might need additional help for that issue
- Refer you both to any relevant support groups
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